The phrase "asking for it" often carries a negative connotation, implying that someone deserves or is to blame for a negative outcome they have experienced. There are many synonyms that can be used to express a similar sentiment without the negative connotations, such as "putting oneself in harm's way," "risking trouble," "inviting danger," "tempting fate," or "courting disaster." These phrases convey a sense of accountability for one's actions without placing blame or suggesting that someone deserves negative consequences. By using alternative phrasing, we can avoid perpetuating harmful stereotypes and instead encourage accountability and responsibility in our language.